Settling Down in Your 20’s: Is It For You?
Your 20s: the decade that most people refer to as the ‘best years of your life’. While this is true, it’s actually one of the most stressful and pressurising times of your life. You’re expected to make decisions about what you want to do with your life, how to spark a career for yourself and among this are frequently asked ‘when are you going to settle down?’
For many, the idea of settling down is actually quite frightening. It means that not only do you have to find someone that you love and want to be with – which for the most part is a task in itself – but you’ve also got to start thinking about future decisions, whether you want to be with this person long term or perhaps even get married with kids. For others, the decisions seem to come easily, some people want to settle down and have everything planned out and for them the idea of settling down at what may be considered a young age isn’t daunting in the slightest.
One of the best things about settling down in your 20s, particularly if it’s quite early on is that you are lucky enough to have found “the one” so early on in life, meaning that you have someone to take on the rollercoaster of emotions in your dreaded 20s. At 21 and beginning to settle down myself, I’m happy knowing the person I’m with is in it for the long haul. Personally, I don’t believe that settling down can hold you back from anything. In fact it can actually make your life a little better. You’re still free to do all the things you want to do – if you can’t, you’re probably with the wrong person – but the added bonus is you get to do them with someone you love, which is special.
For others, the idea of settling down in your prime years is truly horrifying, the thought process being “why on earth would I want to be tied down at such a young age when I can go out and have all the fun I want?” For these people settling down means no more partying, no more fun and no more rolling in when the sun comes up at 5am because worrying your other half will change everything. They tend to believe that you should make the most of your life while you’re young, the idea being that you have plenty of time to settle down later in life.
It’s hard to tell whether settling down is a good or a bad idea in your 20s and to be frank every individual is different. It’s true that most individuals are likely to bounce in and out of relationships when they’re young. Whether you find someone right for you and choose to settle down, or you choose to remain single and party until you pass out is completely different in each and every situation. As long as you’re happy in your life, who cares what your relationship status is anyway?