Could Old-Fashioned Dating Work In The Modern Day?
In a word, yes. If people can profess their love for one another over Facebook, what’s stopping them for picking up a pen and paper as a means of expressing their affections to their other half? I’m a great believer in the use of old-fashioned dating techniques to keep a relationship as good as it should be. Finding a love letter secretly left behind by a visiting significant other, or even receiving one through the post, has to be one of the most romantic things out there. This kind of spontaneity is how relationships last, and why many couples from the older generation stay together for all of their lives. That said, when old-fashioned dating methods are not an option all of the time, similar things brought into modern times, such as morning texts, are little things that can mean a lot.
Love is all about commitment, and making an effort to show your appreciation for the person you love. Old-fashioned dating is the perfect way to demonstrate these things. By going that extra mile to plan a unique date idea, buy flowers out of the blue, or make a small but meaningful homemade gift, you are showing just how much your girlfriend or boyfriend means to you.
Another thing that old-fashioned dating teaches us is patience. The likelihood is that you’ve heard your grandparents talk about when they were ‘courting’ – this could probably be equated to what we refer to nowadays as the ‘talking stage’. Essentially, it’s getting to know someone and just having fun with them before taking any further steps. This way of dating is much more effective than two people simply deciding that they both fancy each other and jumping straight into a relationship. By taking things slowly, you can find out whether or not the object of your affections has the same values and ideas as you, and if you actually have anything in common. These things are vital in a relationship, and yet many people don’t think about them before going official.
The only thing that I am on the fence about in terms of old-style dating is men paying for dates. For me, it’s an individual decision as to who pays, and things like finances come into play over gender. Alternating who pays may be a good solution, with the odd surprise as a romantic gesture.
I believe that if everyone took the old-fashioned approach to dating, relationships would be a lot happier! Why not give it a go?