When To Make It Facebook Official, If Ever
I looked quickly at my phone, a now automatic and giddy reaction to the sound of a notification- someone loves me! I felt momentarily disappointed; it wasn’t a text message from him, but a Facebook notification. My laptop was open on my lap, and out of laziness I typed in my Facebook password and hit the enter button. “You are now in a relationship with Blankety Blank” alongside the option to confirm or deny…
I both love and loathe Facebook, in equal measures, but it seems to be unavoidable in our modern world, including the dating world.
Until my current relationship, I had never had to include the changing of my relationship status online as one of the milestones in a relationship. So I had no plan on how to handle it. Luckily he was cheeky enough to just go ahead and change it, taking the anxiety out of it.
We had been seeing each other for two months (the first time around) before we tentatively changed our relationship status. This was due in large part to my insistence that we were just seeing each other casually (in large part due to my being a scaredy cat). The second time around (after two months of insanity on his part), he brazenly changed the status about two weeks into the relationship, having told me he loved me a couple of nights before.
Now, I wouldn’t do any of this over, as our story is ours, however, having thought more about its importance in a relationship, I would probably have followed some of the following rules:
- Don’t change your relationship status when you are drunk
- Don’t change your relationship status until you’ve had good (sober) sex together
- Don’t change your relationship status until you have met at least three of their friends, one of them being their best friend- friends add background to their personality
- Don’t change your relationship status until you’ve had your first argument- that way you don’t just see their ‘company’ manners
- Don’t change your relationship status until you’ve met their parents (or significant family member), or until they have asked you to
- Don’t change your relationship status until you have been together a month
- Don’t change your relationship status until you are comfortable
The last one is most important of all, the golden rule to follow in anything relationship based. And the second golden rule for relationships on Facebook is not to be one of those couples that airs their dirty laundry on it; Facebook is a social utility tool, not a utility room.
When do you think a couple should make their relationship Facebook official?