Let’s Discuss: Sexting
The art of sexting has always been somewhat of a controversial topic. You sent what?! To who?! Twenty years ago, sexting would have been nothing more than an eight-bit illustration of a penis, created from numbers and punctuation. However, in recent years we’ve become more dependent on our phones, we use apps such as Tinder and Facebook to manufacture relationships. It’s inevitable that in 2016 we’d use our phones for something a little intimate, in a sense we’ve created a new kind of sex toy.
Do you honestly think it would stay between the sheets? Sexting, like most things, comes in all shapes and sizes. It can start with something innocent, a text message for example and before you know it you’ve sent a photo of your new nipple piercing, to the lad who sits across from you at work or school.
Our question is, is it all just harmless fun? I’m inclined to suggest that yes, it is. In an age where people are working eight hour days and six days a week, for some it may be the only method of maintaining exhilaration within a relationship. When you’ve spent the day overworking your brain or body at your job, the thought of vigorous activity at the end of it may lead to repulsion. It seems only logical to attempt to keep the passion alive in the form of sexting, it’s a form of sexual expression. And it’s usually harmless, unless of course the message falls into the wrong lap. Surely you all remember that one girl at school, well-known for her naked body being shared around at lunch time – a frightening thought looking back. With the reaction to the leaked nudes of celebrities such as Jennifer Lawrence and Selena Gomez, it’s clear that society labels females as “slutty” if ever a nude is leaked, despite the fact that the sender didn’t wish for it to fall into your hands. It could even be argued that sexting is a form of control over females. With the naked body being scrutinized as harshly as it is, the dangers of sexting are clear, if you upset the recipient in some way, the message can be used against you and then boom! you’re a “slut”.
So is sexting a problem? Honestly, I don’t think the act of sexting is the issue. We’re all sexual beings living in a technological world. It shouldn’t be shocking that sexting exists, the issue in 2016 is that we’re all so horrified when we see it. Once we erase the stigma attached to sending a nude or kinky text, we erase the negativity that comes hand in hand with it. More importantly once we erase the stigma, we erase the control some males feel they are entitled to. So the next time you receive THAT picture of the girl you barely know, don’t laugh and show you friends, tell her she looks sterling and delete it ASAP!