Let’s Discuss: Sex On The First Date
Sex on the first date has been a topic of discussion for as long as I can remember, so let’s discuss it!
People have varied opinions on this subject matter, from asking around on Twitter and then amongst my group of friends, the majority have said they would not engage in sex on the first date (SOTFD). The general consensus is that sex is supposed to be special and with somebody special or dear to you.
Individuals – mainly women – who responded no to SOTFD, believe that allowing the person to “hit it” on the very first date will encourage them never to return. These individuals firmly believe that both parties should wait before engaging in sexual intercourse, allowing time to get to know each other better, in the hopes that it may build a stronger bond and – in turn – have better sex. Now, I totally understand this point of view because yes, sex can be very intimate and an emotional experience but on the other hand, sex can just be sex. If you are feeling your date, have chemistry and the sexual tension is through the roof, then why the fuck not?
As an advocate of doing what you want, when you want and with whom you want, I give SOTFD the green light. If you are comfortable enough with your prospective sexual partner, then by all means go ahead and get you some! Though I will say this, you should never have sex with someone if you don’t want to or are being pressured into it. It is your decision to make and it doesn’t make you better or worse for saying yes or no.
This topic is debatable because first dates don’t necessarily mean you haven’t been speaking with the person for a long period of time beforehand. Lots of people – with the help of the internet – don’t actually meet up for weeks, months or even sometimes years. A bond shouldn’t be measured by time, it should only be measured by the feelings you have for that person. As someone who catches feelings quite quickly, I can assure you that talking to someone for two months won’t make the bond any stronger if you just aren’t feeling them.
Going back to the whole ‘make the man wait’ theory, I personally feel it’s total bullshit. Why deprive yourself of sexual prowess in fear that he won’t return? If sex is all he wants, then that’s not the man for you, simple. But if sex is all you want from him, then by all means get that man in your bed this instant. Think of it like this, you could wait until you’re deep in your feelings and then find out he doesn’t even know where your clit is! As a male, you could wait until you’ve told your boys all about this girl you’ve been seeing and then find out she can’t even suck dick. My point is, don’t hold out on sex because you think the other person will view you differently; who fucking cares! It’s your life and you should do what makes you happy.