Why Are Girls So Bitchy?
I am continually perplexed at the complexity and tumultuous emotions that control female friendships. Whether it is your childhood friend or a recently made university acquaintance, female relationships are constantly scrutinised for their high levels of arguments, petty disagreements and well, for want of a better word, downright bitchiness.
As females we are supposed to be continually fighting for equal rights with men and to maintain longstanding prominent places in society, yet it often appears that women are unable to get along – rejecting all notions of ‘sisterhood’. It is frequently apparent that while society fights for equality, females predominantly attack their own sex.
Friendship is supposed to consist of equal parts care and support, yet all women will understand when I talk about the fragility and unpredictability of even the closest of female friendships. Bickering, gossiping and acting two-faced continually plague even the best of us – I challenge anyone to be brave enough to admit to never bitching or talking about another girl behind her back. I bet there isn’t a single female reader who can honestly say they have never committed this common misdemeanour.
Becoming and staying friends is always a difficult task to undertake as lifestyle choices, jobs and romantic relationships frequently interfere with the dynamics of otherwise successful female unions. Females constantly assess other women on their attractiveness, rating them on their hair colour, weight and wardrobe choices. With the prevalence of social media, it is easy to judge your so called friends on their new boyfriends or other friends – once again assessing these individuals on shallow physical characteristics. Once petty arguments ensue, women often find another female friend to vent their anger to – subsequently resulting in them insulting their original friend greatly, predominantly on things you usually have no problem with. After all, what relevance does their new hair colour have on your anger towards the argument about her awful timekeeping you had earlier?
This culture that women have created has resulted in a multitude of females’ insecurity. Whether it is a night out in town or a day out at the races, every event becomes one of judgemental physical assessment . Do you look better than that girl over there? Are you slimmer? Taller? Are you more likely to get more likes for your photo on Instagram? All this shallow comparing does is put a strain on female friendships as this competitiveness never stops at females who aren’t your friends (most females naturally compare their friends supposed attractiveness to their own). By focusing on each other’s so called bad points and physical insecurities, we are just creating a culture that is unable to accept friends just as they are – it becomes difficult to follow someone on Instagram without assessing how many followers they have, what they look like and whether they have an ‘attractive’ boyfriend. The pressure caused by this extreme bitchiness will never be good for women because if we cannot accept each other, it becomes harder to accept ourselves and the true meaning of beauty.
I love my friends. We argue, of course. I am not immune to the way friends argue and bicker and judge. Saying this, I try my hardest to not vent my views to another female friend, in an attempt to halt the bitter, unnecessary judging that will ensue. If women are to be powerful and strong, they need to unite, not separate. As women we should embrace the positive points of females friendships until finally the care, compassion and love will override the judging, physical assessing and the bitching that has become commonplace in female friendships.