Is There A Difference Between Being Rude And Being Honest?
Yes. This article needs no more than that one word answer, but that would be rude… Wouldn’t it?
These days, everybody seems to be extremely sensitive. Whether it’s due to a continuing increase in Drake’s record sales, I don’t know, but it seems apparent that more and more of us are taking every ‘honest’ comment (no matter what it is) and making it negative: “Are you trying to take me for a dickhead?” We’re taking jokes too seriously too, because “every joke has an element of truth to it”.
“Opinions aren’t facts, take ’em in and let ’em go” please! Something else to consider is honesty isn’t always the best policy. Airing your opinions to sensitive people unnecessarily is asking for needless, mindless conflict – a big waste of time and energy if you want my two pence.
Now, when you are rude you are usually offensively impolite or bad-mannered, while being honest would mean you are free of deceit, truthful and sincere. It is quite clear that they are not the same thing at all by definition, but signals get crossed when we confuse being ‘honest’ with harshly sharing our opinions that we know to be controversial or hurtful to whom we are speaking to.
I would be lying to you if I told you being ‘honest’ could never get you in trouble or misconstrued. It has been argued that people who sugar coat things have no backbone and are weak, but in most cases harsh truths are unnecessarily dished out to hurt people.
My thoughts on this type of thing are quite simple. If I were to choose to be ‘honest’ with another person in order to make them feel small, in turn making myself feel more significant, I’d say I was being selfish, wicked or suffering from insecurities and self-esteem issues. Again, I’m usually the first person to scream out “no two people are the same, you can’t compare how you’d feel to how someone else would feel, it won’t work”, but I know most of you would. With that said, I do believe in a positive form of ‘honesty’ or constructive criticism that could inspire good change or progression in a person, if taken the right way. However, a good example of when this type of ‘honesty’ may not be received well is when you meet a person who appears very blunt and tends to shy away from sugar coating things. This is where you Drake-loving, sensitive cry babies have to put your emotions aside and objectively assess whether this person has good intentions or if they’re just an asshole.
“This can’t be life”, but it is. I urge each and every one of you to try to pick your battles wisely. I know there’s loads of sensitive music influencing us right now, including my own sometimes (cheap plug), but I’m not asking you to let people walk all over you. Just consider the idea that there is a difference between being rude and being honest. Not everyone is out to get you.