5 Things To Do While Getting Over A Break Up
Relationships. They may seem perfect and a bit of fun from the outside, but until you get into one you’ll never realise the emotions and thoughts that come with them. Don’t get me wrong, some of these emotions are wonderful. You may feel like you’re finally complete, fireworks are going off in your heart and all your happiness depends on that one special person. However, when you break up these bonds can make things even harder. You’re very likely to experience emotions such as anxiety, sadness and stress. You might even think “Well I’m obviously not good enough, why would anyone else ever want to go out with me?” One thing to remember is your thoughts and emotions are not facts. They’re just passing feelings you’re bound to get from being shocked or overwhelmed by a break up or sad event.
Being single does not make you any less of a person. In fact, it can mean you are wise and cautious, not wanting to rush into anything with someone who may treat you badly. There is so much more to life than talking about guys and wondering if you’ll ever get with someone. Here are some of the things which helped me get over my last break up, and took my mind off finding ‘the one’:
1. Go for runs/walks
Exercise is a brilliant way to take your mind off any problems you may be having. It may seem like a lot of effort, but running even just for half an hour releases endorphins, which balance your hormone levels. I have been going for hour long speed walks every night after school with a close friend, and since then my confidence levels have really been boosted and I’m generally feeling much better in myself. So give it a try, what could go wrong?
2. Watch comedies
Take your mind off soppy love stories and try chilling in the dark with some snacks while watching your favourite comedies! Watching movies like Titanic and The Fault In Our Stars will not put you in a good frame of mind after a break-up or when you’re going through a lot. Try watching some Adam Sandler films like Billy Madison, or even a slapstick like The Three Stooges. It’ll make you laugh and feel so much better.
3. Find yourself a hobby
No, lying in bed all day watching Netflix on your phone is not classed as a hobby! Get out and do something new, even if it’s joining a local exercise class or starting to learn a new musical instrument. Anything creative will take your mind off any negative thoughts you may be having, and writing poetry and songs/raps about how you feel is a great way to relieve stress. Try something new. What’s the worst that could happen? You may actually enjoy it.
As I’ve learnt from experience, staying at home on your phone all day scrolling through social media will not make you feel any happier. You need to do something to take your mind off all the negative things. Try meeting with your friends and going for a walk, or perhaps going for a shopping trip with a group of close friends. Anything like that will do you good. Try and surround yourself with positive people as those who are negative will just drag you down further with them, and you don’t want to end up unhappier than you already are.
5. Appreciate the positive
Just smile, and pay attention to the little things in life like caring texts from your mum or the sound of the heavy rain on your window at night. You’ll start to see the world in a better way, and time will heal you. That’s a promise.